Tell Me This Isn't a Government Operation...

Each year, I spend the first weekend in May at a seminar hosted by the North Carolina Bar Association's Family Law Section. This year, the event was held in downtown Charleston, one of my very favorite places in the world and the best place EVER for a guided, history-themed pub crawl!

The seminar is usually good for at least 6 hours of continuing legal education credit, and invariably I learn some new nugget of information that helps me with in a pending case.

This year, my favorite presentation was not from a family law attorney but a school board attorney representing one of the largest public school districts in North Carolina.

She was there to offer insights on how schools interpret the custody orders we domestic attorneys work so hard to craft. The takeaway for me was that family lawyers in general (myself included) don't give schools enough thought when structuring settlements, but we should.  Clients tend to assume that the court system, the justice system, the social service system, and the educational system are all part of the same monolithic bureaucracy in which the right tentacle knows what the four tentacles to it's left are up to.  Nothing could be further from the truth!

I encounter school issues in my custody cases all the time - private vs. public; your preferred school vs. mine; how often can dad drop by to have lunch with the child?  Does the child's teacher need to schedule one parent/teacher conference or two?  Unfortunately, those questions tend to get crowded out by arguments over custodial time and child support.

Another thing attorneys overlook is the fact that schools are independent, semi-autonomous legal entities that generally don't care how the domestic system works; they need custody orders to work with in their structure.

For example, it's routine for parties to a consent custody order to agree that their child will attend a particular school. However, did you know that by statute a District Court judge in family court has no authority to assign your child to any particular school? That authority belongs to the local school district in which the child is enrolled. Therefore, if you have a shared physical custody schedule and the parents live in different school assignment zones, you should check with the school system before you have a judge sign your consent order if school assignment is an important issue in your case.

Another surprise was how desperately school administrators want family lawyers to give them clear, informed guidance in the written custody order, so principals, guidance counselors, and teachers will know to address the conflicts between separated parents that inevitably arise.  I hope the next time I mediate a case involving custody of a school-age child I can resist the urge to pat myself on the back and consider the job done once the parent's basic schedule is in place, because in truth there may be important work left undone.